tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6092157915634513409.post6310471633773462560..comments2014-12-17T07:09:16.438-08:00Comments on Living Without Emma: On Eastenders...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08919587570178092167noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6092157915634513409.post-35599427681719880532011-04-03T07:26:21.733-07:002011-04-03T07:26:21.733-07:00I know that feeling...I hate watching a movie wher...I know that feeling...I hate watching a movie where there is a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or a baby born too soon who dies shortly thereafter, because I have personally experienced all three.<br /> I cannot think of a single time where I have seen this on TV and they didn't turn the parent into a grief-stricken baby snatcher or worse, make the character into someone who had it out for other parents and committed violence against them or their children because of it.<br /> Yes, people look at us in the real world like 10 headed monsters or however you put it...it is hard because many many people simply do not have the emotional or mental capability to accept that children die and that babies die...it just does not fit with their world view and because they can't handle it, they feel the need to villify the parents who have suffered loss. <br /> The reasoning? If you villify the parents who have lost a child, then you can be self-righteously angry and creeped out and then you don't have to deal with the incredible sadness you might otherwise feel for them for losing a child, and even worse, you get to avoid the feeling of FEAR that come with that...the fear that it could happen to you or someone close to you.<br /> Anger is a safe emotion and protects us from emotions that hurt too much.....and maybe that is what you and I are doing right now being so angry with the writers, directors, and producers of this crap...we are being vocally angry because if we're not angry, we're going to be hurting so badly because when we watch this stuff we feel like it's just another blow from society saying that they don't care enough to help us carry our hurt....we don't matter enough for them to make a small sacrifice and hurt with is...its easier for them to villify us and avoid those feelings when the sad fact is that we don't have the luxury of doing what they are doing...we don't get the luxury of avoiding our feelings. This is reality and our babies are dead.<br /><br /> I certainly hope you take your art and create something that gives us loss-parents a voice.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536962145323635965noreply@blogger.com